Lies I Was Told As A Teenager



At the start of each year, I check in with myself to see where I am, and how I can creep closer to, living the life I have envisioned for myself today, tomorrow, and so forth. Call it a quarter-life crisis, but in the midst of this activity, I found some my old journals and decided to pay a visit to my teenage self. After flipping back a decade, I was overwhelmed with emotion, as I reminisced back to “the glory days.” What came next up, however, surprised me. A chronic optimist, I was taken back by my own thoughts. To process this rant, I wrote a letter to myself as a teenager. In doing so, I found clarity. But this didn’t make it all okay.

One of the things I was told most as a teenager was that “these are the best years of your life.” Transformative, yes. But to say that this was as good as it was going to get was, well, bullshit. Odds are that this saying is being mentioned because someone is “taking for granted” this time in their life – aka miserable. “Welp, suck it up kid because this is just about as good it’s going to get”, does nothing but cloud hope that things will get better. What would be not only more accurate but also more reassuring is the truth that “no one else has it figured out either.” We are all doing our best to navigate this journey we call life, often times in driving in our own lanes, but right beside the rest of them, nonetheless. 


Be kind always.

Everyone you meet is fighting their own battle.

While you’re at it, be kind to yourself too.


Your mom is pretty much always right.

Nothing good happens after midnight.

That doesn’t mean you can’t feed your curiosity.

But for real, don’t drive drunk.


Do your best but don’t drive yourself crazy in the process.

Find seek balance.

Listen to your intuition.

Do what is right, not what is easy.

I’m sorry for your heartaches and heartbreaks. We all go through it. Some say it makes you stronger; either that or its like hazing into adulthood. As if periods weren’t enough. Oy.

Inevitably, fitting in will be important to you. It is what it is.


Ride the wave.

Change is the only constant in life. Get used to it.

Go with the universe as it ebbs and flows, waves and wanes.

Learn from the past and move on.

Keep moving.

What’s done is done.

Each morning we are born again.

What we do today is what matters most.


You are your only limit.

Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.